I haven't posted a blog - I've thought about it and I even sat down and wrote something on slow science (which hopefully I will post later this week). But frankly, it seemed trivial given the personal issues that my sisters (Wisdom and Fortune) and I are dealing with. It's the slow drip of consequence that came because my father died recently - almost two months ago now.
After someone dies, there is a funeral, followed by the issues of estate.
And then there is another funeral.
What I mean by this is that so much of a person's life is revealed after they die. As a consequence, you go through a second grieving process, one that let's you bury expectations.
Now, as my sisters and I navigate the issues around his will, we are learning more and more about the side of my father I had known existed, but in some way hoped would go away.
His death has unraveled the past. At the moment, I am grieving what I thought he was and it turned out really wasn't.
It's a turning point for me.
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4 comments:
ugh. that's got to be such a tough thing to go through. Thinking of you...
I'm sorry that you are going through this.
I don't have any words of wisdom to offer, just sympathy.
I've been through this. A lot of life is grieving over the mismatch of expectation/belief/hope... and what the evidence tells you doesn't fit with that.
I guess it's good to view it as a turning point. I hope you make it around the corner sooner.
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